Another new month...
Life really goes on.
Chapter One: June
May was a long month. I almost sent another newsletter, but procrastination came through for me. I'd sent two already and I was under no obligation to send another. So, instead, when I wanted to, I engaged in more urgent tasks. I knew sending another letter would have been productive procrastination.
Here we are now…
June is here. Happy new month.❤️
Do you know that June and New rhyme in some sort of way?
I didn't think about this before I created content for my IG page that if you are considering restarting anything, just do it now. Start anew. Start afresh. Turn back if you need to. Check out the IG post here:
Chapter Two: Clarity
Cordelia Cupp said in The Residence (2025), “I knew when I knew. At some point, you go from not knowing something to knowing it,” and I believe that's how life works. A lot of times, that's how clarity works.
With some of my relationships, I went from a state of confusion and not knowing, to absolute clarity. I cannot tell exactly when the knowing started, I just know that one day I had regrets and wondered about my actions — if I had been too severe, and one day, I didn't. I knew that I had taken the right step to sever things.
That's one of the reasons I no longer beat myself up when I don't know (or not too much anyway).
Clarity comes eventually, and oftentimes you can't hasten the process.
Chapter Three: Anxiety
I've wanted to talk about my anxiety for a while, but I didn't know how to reconcile two seemingly contrasting ideas of trusting God and being anxious. How can you trust God and be anxious? How can you be anxious and yet claim to trust God?
Yet, that's how it's been with me lately. I trust God. My life and future are practically in His hands. I've handed it all to Him, and I trust them with Him. But I also get so anxious that I've learnt a new position of curling up or coiling into a ball the way cats tend to do. When I get an episode of anxiety, I do this, have a breathing exercise while confessing the scripture and reminding myself of God's Word, and it eases.
In these moments of extreme anxiety, breathlessness and heart palpitations, God's Word has been my source of relief. His presence and the acknowledging of His nearness always help.
Yet, after experiencing relief, I've gone on to have episodes after episodes backed by relief after relief. This anxiety isn't even usually triggered by anything. I could be on a chore and suddenly, I'm anxious.
Took me a while to understand that you can have faith, yet be anxious. I tried to explain it to a friend but it was difficult for him to understand. But it's what I've come to live with.
I won't ask if you agree, because I honestly don't want to know the answer to that. What I want you to know is that if this looks like you, then I see you. I understand.
What's my anxiety mostly about? Hauwa wrote it here:
Chapter Four: Productivity
I’ve found one trick that helps me to be productive.
Whenever I catch myself doom-scrolling (these days it’s TikTok, but it used to be IG), and one of those “look who’s here on TikTok when they’ve got things to do” videos pops up… I laugh, close the app immediately, and get back to work. That video is my cue. Doesn’t matter if I still want to scroll, I take the L and bounce. Unless I have nothing urgent, I don’t stay.
That little moment has saved me from so many wasted hours.
But here’s the key, don’t scroll for “just one more video” after that call-out video. That’s the trap. You’ll blink and boom, an hour’s gone.
What if that kind of video never comes up?
Set a timer. Decide how long you’ll be on the app. When your time’s up, respect the break and log off. No extensions. No “five more minutes.”
Chapter Five: Attachment Styles
I recently found out that some people don’t know what attachment styles are.
Basically, your attachment style is how you relate to people in your relationships (romantic, platonic, even work-related), and it’s deeply shaped by the kind of care you got from your caregiver(s) as a child.
It’s not just psychobabble, it actually affects how you show up in your relationships as an adult.
The past doesn’t stay in the past. It shows up in how you text back, trust people, or panic when someone pulls away.
There are four main types:
Secure attachment (explains itself, doesn't it?)
Avoidant attachment
Anxious attachment
Disorganized attachment
I think there are more, but these are the main types. You can read further on this online.
Chapter Six: God
I'm a skeptic and a rebel, but in the beginning it was not so. As a child, I believed whatever my parents said. Most likely, whatever any adult said as children are liable to do.
If my dad said he would buy me a jet, I'd believe him. Because he was my father, and he said he would. When he promised to get me my first phone, I believed him. I didn't wonder how that was possible when we were barely hanging on then. I just believed.
Then I became a teen, and I doubted and fought everything. I fought God. I asked questions and the answers were usually unsatisfactory. “God knows best.” “Let God be the judge.” “It's a mystery only God knows.” “When we get to heaven, we'll understand.”
Infuriation couldn't describe what I felt most of those times.
Now, I'm an adult and I understand those things I didn't understand as a teenager. There are some things in life you have to accept with the heart of a child.
Like how a two-year-old believes her dad can buy her a jet, because, in her world, he owns everything. That’s childlike faith.
As adults, we wrestle with that kind of trust.
And that’s okay.
I don’t believe in blind acceptance. I believe in asking questions.
Because if your beliefs are only based on how you were raised, one day, life will shake you hard enough to break them.
And when that happens, what’s left?
You’ve got to know why you believe what you believe.
Not because it’s what your parents believe.
Not because it’s what your love interest believes.
Not because it’s been your lifestyle so long you don’t know anything else.
But because you searched. You wrestled. You found answers.
And you’re convinced of the truth that it’s real. That it’s worth building your life on.
Like Nabeel Qureshi did, you can dig. Ask the hard questions. Research deeply. Look at the history, the evidence, the roots. Is this true? Is this right?
Then decide.
Not based on fear or pressure.
There's no need to sit in rot, in disbelief.
Did Jesus really die? You can find out.
Don’t just read what you'd like to read, read what challenges you too.
You’ve questioned your faith.
Now it’s time to question your doubts.
That it's popular doesn't mean it's true, but it also doesn't mean it's not true.
Chapter Seven: MindSpace
Do you know anyone who wants free therapy or are you someone who would like to take advantage of free therapy? Check out MindSpace on X. Follow the page because they're cooking something up to fund therapy for young people.
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PS: You're the first to see this.
Chapter Eight: Recommendations
Current read: Beautiful Wings by Itunu Taiwo.
Recommended movies:
The Residence (Short series)
Ruse (Nollywood)
The Forge (Christian)
Checkered Ninja (Animation)
Chapter Nine: Opportunities
Online Tutor/Lecturer at OSAD Professionals. Interested and qualified candidates should forward their CV to: Info@osadtutors.com using the position as the subject of the email.
ICRC Legal Traineeship 2026 in Geneva – 12-Month Paid Legal Role. Apply here.
NATO Internship. Apply here.
Learn software engineering at MLH Fellowship: Fully remote 12-week internship with earnings. Apply here.
Chapter Ten: Conclusion
I usually write these chapters on different days, and I find that that has helped me tremendously in showing up.
I wish you a lovely June, you.
Stay safe. Until I write again.❤️✨